If you’re like me, there have been times when your spouse did something nice that made you smile inside, but you simply moved on without specifically thanking them for it.😃🤔
I’m sure I’m not the only one guilty of this. 🙈 The subconscious thinking that drives this attitude is the thinking that our spouses are meant to be nice and to do nice things for us, anyway. Well, the truth is that no action is too small to show gratitude for.
I came across a research finding that says that there is a strong connection between gratitude and relationship growth. According to the findings, thankfulness helps the receiving partner to update their perception of their spouse! In other words, a thankful partner appreciates in the eyes of their spouse! This in turn binds the couple together even more and motivates relationship growth. How great!
Everyone has an inner desire to be appreciated. No one likes to be taken for granted. Including you, right?
As we step into the last month of 2023 ( can you believe it? This year ran…😁), deliberate thankfulness is in order. “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)
There is always something to be thankful for in your spouse. You only need to be intentional and look well.
Maybe you’re thinking of your spouse’s shortcomings and your own disappointment. Think differently: God can use even the worst circumstances to eventually bring about a good while also growing your own character.
Here’s my challenge to you in the remaining days of this year:
🌺 Deliberately search out things about your spouse to be thankful for.
🌺 Engage in daily random acts of thankfulness towards your spouse, irrespective of your feelings about their frailties.
🌺 Choose to focus on the good ( and yes there are quite a number, if you look well) rather than the bad.
🌺 Affirm the gifts and benefits you have received by being married to your spouse. If you can’t come up with any, be thankful for the joy of loving someone intimately .
🌺 God loves us unconditionally through Christ. We should extend the same courtesy to our spouses.
HOT TIP:
As often as possible, intentionally share your thankfulness points with your spouse. Either verbally, by text, or through whatever means you choose, let them be aware that you are choosing to keep the “thanks” in your “giving” towards them. Then watch your relationship dynamic shift for the better.
True love is thankful💖❣️
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Are you wondering how to get started? Here’s a post that lists 20 things to thank your spouse for:
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