…continued from the last edition.
This is the concluding part of my Newsletter on the all-important subject of Compromise in marriage.
Having explored the need for it as well as what it looks like in marriage, I would like to dwell on some other vital aspects of Compromise between couples.
EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULE:
As indispensable as it is, there are areas where compromise should not apply, but which must be guarded by irrevocable boundaries:
- Core values: Your core values are your fundamental beliefs and principles that serve as your moral compass. Some examples are fairness, kindness, honesty, justice, integrity, respect, etc. Under no circumstance should you let go of your values, which should serve as the guide for your conduct at all times.
- Obeying the law: Whatever borders on breaking the law, committing a crime, or the like should never be condoned. You must not aid and abet any violation of constituted authority in any way.
- Security and safety: Whether it be that of yourself, your children, relatives, or defendants, you must never compromise on the well-being of anyone under your care. Any behaviour that threatens your physical, mental, or emotional well-being must be reported to the right authorities for appropriate action. This includes abuse of any kind. Speak up! Talk to someone and seek help immediately.
SOME PRACTICAL WAYS TO COMPROMISE:
- Communicate freely and openly. Listen to each other and be willing to explore other options being put forward by your spouse
- Be solution-oriented, especially in times of disagreement and conflict. Deliberately focus on the way forward and locate opportunities for growth, instead of blaming each other and finding fault.
- Both of you should contribute to the smooth running of the home ( house chores, finances, child care, etc).
- Learn to solve problems together.
- Allow room for the pursuit of legitimate individual hobbies and interests. Take it a notch higher by supporting your spouse as much as you can.
In conclusion, compromise eliminates frustration while strengthening the cords of unity, mutual respect, and nurturing love.
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