They chatted happily like two teenage girls who were catching up after a long school break.😁
Their voices were somewhat loud as they conversed, giggling like they were the only ones on the plane.
As I settled into my seat, I hoped to catch a nap on the flight, but no, these chatty ladies wouldn’t let me. I began to get irritated and put off by them. I stole a glance at them hoping they would catch my eye and somehow ‘discern’ that they needed to lower their voices.😂
Alas! That was not going to happen, I doubt that they even noticed me. 🤔
The more they chatted, the more unsettled I felt as I closed my eyes hoping to catch a much-needed nap.
After a while, I reminded myself that this was a public space and I had no control over how my seat neighbors chose to spend their time together on the flight.
Something remarkable happened after that. As I deliberately shut them out in my mind and focused on relaxing and getting some rest, I STOPPED HEARING THEM!
The minute I stopped focusing and paying attention to them, I was able to make progress in my desire to catch a cat nap. Before long I had drifted off to sleep.😆
No, they did not stop talking.
No, they did not lower their voices.
The circumstances remained the same, but I got a different result because I changed my focus. I stopped paying attention to what I could not control.
Then it hit me: In life, your focus determines your reality!
I’m sure you can predict where I’m going with this.
Whatever you expend focus on, tends to enlarge. The more you pay attention to what irritates you, the more you empower it to engulf your consciousness and concentration.
👀 Learn to differentiate between what you can control and what you cannot control, in your relationship with your spouse/partner.
👀 Learn to focus on what helps you to maintain a good attitude towards your partner.
👀 As long as those habits of your spouse are not sinful, harmful or criminal, choose to let some inconsequential stuff slide, in your relationship.
NOTE: This is not to invalidate your feelings in any way.
So if you find what is happening bothersome, or if it represents a violation of your God-given rights, by all means, bring it up. Discuss it and proffer solutions together, in a civil, respectable manner.
Hot Tip:
What you focus on expands; so focus on what you want, not what you do not want.
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