So you’re asking, what is the limit to my honesty with my spouse?
Should I really say everything? Like EVERYTHING from my past and all?
What if he/she reacts badly or ends the marriage?
Aren’t there things that are better left unsaid?
The simple guide to determining what or what not to disclose is your motive.
Why are you withholding that information from your spouse?
Is your motive to DECEIVE them or to PROTECT them?
If your intention is to protect your spouse from information that they honestly cannot handle or that may be injurious to them, or that is premature in timing, then that is a different ball game.
However if you are withholding an information from them because you want to deliberately keep them in the dark, deceive them, cover your tracks or give them a false impression, then you are being dishonest.
There is no doubt that we all are imperfect and have made choices in the past that we are not proud of. Where the consequences of those choices impact upon the stability of your marriage in any way, the other party has to be brought into the picture, for accountability’s sake. In that case, the relationship will outlast the truth; it will survive if the process is properly handled, especially with right counsel.
Quit lying and deceiving your spouse; the game will be up one day.
So, whatever your spouse will find out later and be disappointed and hurt, let them hear it from you first.
That is one very crucial demand of married life.
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